Dating with no commitment
One person makes it clear that he or she just wants to "have fun" and does not want a relationship or to get serious. When two people have an agreement that they are both wanting to be casual about their interactions with one another, it can be fun and enjoyable. We certainly hope that there is fun and enjoyment in love relationships and marriages, but there are also other elements that the casual dating experience does not usually include. There are many people who simply don't want to be in a love relationship.As time passes, however, confusion, disagreement and possible pain about this "non-relationship" grows. They may have had painful experiences in past relationships and still feel too vulnerable and wounded to jump back into another one now, or ever.Comment: I’ve been seeing this guy for the past few months and he’s made it clear to me he doesn’t have time to devote to a serious relationship because his new job takes up too much time and energy and he has no idea when that will all change, plus he’s new to the city (I know, three DEFINITE red flags for not being relationship-ready: new job, new crazy hours, new to the city).I am looking for a serious relationship, but still have fun with him.The thing to remember about casual dating is that is basically means that you’re seeing each other regularly or semi-regularly, sleeping together, but there is no expressed exclusivity or long term commitment.It’s more like Indefinite Dating than Casual Dating.
Or, perhaps, they are clear within themselves that they do not want that kind of depth and level of involvement with another person right now. It gets tricky, however, when a person who is not wanting to be in a relationship does want to date and possibly be sexually intimate with other people.A lot of people like to place importance on the logistics of the dates, how much money is spent, how much time is spent together and what activities are involved other than sex.People comfortable with casual dating don’t really care about that stuff. Some people take longer than others to determine the long term compatibility of a person and relationship.It doesn’t really have an expiration date unless you and the person you’re seeing would like to put one on it. My personal experience, as well as that of many of my friends, is that casual dating isn’t always any different than long term dating or serious dating.We take trips and go to events together and meet each other’s friends.